Adulting: How to Become a Grown Up Without Stopping Being You

It’s not always easy becoming grown up. Sure, there are some people who seem to be permanently old even when they’re still taking lessons at school. But most of us would prefer to stay young and that usually means not being too adult too often.

There’s a fine line here.

Being too childish too often can backfire.

But being permanently serious means you’ll probably miss out on quite a bit of fun.

Fortunately, adulting can be fun as well. Not every single adult is serious all the time (honest).

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Parents – The Real Leaders When it Comes to Dealing With Teenagers

Family is vital part of any human’s life. And as a parent, you would almost certainly like to shape your teenage son into a respectful and confident gentleman with good values and qualities.

And you, as a parent, have a simple and yet a very difficult job to do – to show him the differences between right and wrong, guide him in the right direction and yet let him use his (fairly) rational mind to make his decisions.

The psychology of a teenage boy is unpredictable and often erratic:

Simple, Effective Ways to Turn Off Your Gag Reflex

The human gag reflex is a natural occurrence that allows our body to reject unwanted intrusions. It’s a survival instinct that’s been built in to us since the year dot.

If you swallow something too large, your body will try to reject it. Those are the pharyngeal muscles going to work to save your life so you don’t choke to death.

The gag reflex often happens at the dentist or when you experience someone vomiting near you. Strong odours or chemical smells can also trigger your gag reflex. Some people even react to the sound of someone being sick.

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How to Overcome Stage Fright When Peeing

Stage fright doesn’t just happen with actors or when you’re due to speak in front of a group. It’s very common in other areas of life as well and one of those is stage fright when peeing.

That’s one of the reasons there are usually modesty panels between urinals – they’re not just there to stop you getting accused of looking the wrong way, they’re there to help you take your mind off the fact that other people are close by when you’re peeing in a public rest room.

There’s even a whole etiquette here depending on how many urinals are being used – generally it’s a case of if at all possible, leave at least one empty urinal between you and the next guy. But there are times when that’s not just possible.

So you can contort yourself and try to hold back until a cubicle is free  – that works for some people but others still don’t like the idea that their peeing can still be overheard or the door might somehow get forced in (the stuff of nightmares) or some other totally improbable but still mega worrying possibility.

Or you can take matters in hand (pun intended) and sort your mind out so that you no longer get stage fright about peeing in public facilities.

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Is Working from Home Right for You?

At first glance, working from home sounds like a great idea:

  • A few steps commuting to your office
  • Set your own hours
  • No distractions from other workers
  • No noisy office environment
  • Your workstation and office area are always available
  • No colleagues interrupting you
  • You can have your choice of background music playing

But is working from home all it’s cracked up to be?

And will it work for you?

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How to Accept Old Age Gracefully

Growing old, at least in the number of years we’ve been on this planet, is something that happens to everyone.

But that doesn’t mean we’re prepared for the experience. After all, in our formative years it seems as though everyone who’s too old to be at school is basically ancient.

And even as we begin to grow old, in our mind’s eye we’re still youthful. Even if we aren’t as fast as we were and need props such as glasses and maybe even a walking stick or other mobility aid to help us live our lives.

But unless you’re a rock star then the time comes that you need to accept old age, preferably at least kind-of gracefully.

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5 Ways to Silence Your Inner Critic

We all have nagging voices in our heads: they’re our inner critic and often they talk to us in a way that we wouldn’t tolerate from anyone else.

At a minimum, your inner critic is negative about anything new or different you decide to do. It will come up with all sorts of reasons why it won’t work and why you shouldn’t even attempt whatever it is you’re aiming to do.

Sometimes the inner voices are even worse and stop you in your tracks, preventing you from doing something you’d actually rather enjoy and might even be good at.

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How to Overcome Shyness and Anxiety

Shyness is common – some people seem to be permanently shy, others switch in and out of their shyness according to the situation.

Either way, it is possible to overcome shyness and the anxiety that often comes with that.

A lot of the suggestions I go into here apply regardless of the situation but there are also specific circumstances where I’ve gone into more detail relating to those areas.

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How to Overcome Fear of Making Mistakes

Even the most perfect of us make mistakes at times but sometimes we become worried that we’re making more mistakes than we’d like.

If that happens too often, it changes from being a background worry to a full on phobia – atychiphobia in this instance if you want to use the technical name for the fear of failure or making mistakes.

If you’re worried that you’re being beset by this fear, what can you do about it?

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Successful Weight Loss with Hypnosis

Based on my initial experiences, when it comes to using hypnosis programs to lose weight, I believed that losing weight was just going to be impossible.

You don’t know how to get rid of bad habits and you don’t understand that being patient to wait to see results is vital for you to succeed.

A lot of us expect almost immediate results from our weight goals and then give up too quickly when that doesn’t happen or it all becomes “too difficult”. And that can happen with whatever program you were trying out at that time.

The list below has four major rules necessary for the mind over matter state that you can develop when you use hypnosis to help with your weight loss:

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