There’s almost nothing more frustrating than putting your keys down somewhere safe and then forgetting where that was, which is where the skill of how to find lost things comes into its own. If you’re someone who spends what seems like forever looking for things – keys, cell phones, credit cards, etc – then this will help!
Help on how to find lost things
If you’re forever losing your keys, decide on a place to keep to them and do your level best to always put them in that special place.
OK, this won’t work all the time – you might forget, someone might move them, that kind of thing – but it will improve your chance of finding the lost items quicker.
The saying “there’s a place for everything and everything in its place” has a lot of truth in it.
Sure, it may seem a bit OCD to move everything to a precise location, especially if you get into the Feng Shui idea where even the direction something faces is important (although weirdly the importance can vary depending on who you listen to) but if over 90% of the time the things that you normally lose are in the place they should be – or close to it – then that saves a lot of time and frustration looking for whatever it is that you’ve lost.
The more frustrated you get, the less likely you are to quickly find the lost item.
Take a few deep breaths, maybe even sit down for a moment, and do your best to get all those annoying thoughts to calm themselves down.
There’s not really any point in beating yourself up about losing something. Sure, it can be frustrating at times but it’s unlikely to be the end of the world (that’s been forecast lots of times and eventually one of those forecasts will be correct) and it’s rare that something is totally irreplaceable.
And if it was irreplaceable – say the loss of a loved one – then there’s actually nothing you can do except preserve the lost thing in your memory. You’re still here, breathing. Do your best to take comfort in that.
But most of the time lost things are irritations rather than full-on devastation.
Once you’ve calmed yourself down, you’ll be able to deal with the lost item more rationally.
Once your mind has stopped racing quite as much, think about when you last saw the lost item.
Was it recently?
Or quite some time ago?
Both of those things happen – I’ve currently lost my digital camera. I’ve still got the charger for it but the camera itself isn’t in any of its usual hiding places. And it’s been years since I’ve used anything other than my phone to take photos, which doesn’t help matters.
For the last few months, I’ve kept the thought that I’ll unexpectedly find it bubbling away in my mind.
And maybe I will – I don’t think it would have accidentally got thrown out.
But, after the initial “what the heck” thoughts had subsided, I came to terms with the idea that by the time I find it, the battery will be so old that it’s leaked and the whole device won’t be usable.
And if that’s the case – so what?
If it was more important to me, it wouldn’t have taken several years to discover I’d misplaced it.
But you can do the same with items you’ve lost more recently.
Almost all of them fall into the “nuisance” rather than the “show stopper” category.
So take the time to calm yourself down – put on some relaxing music, go for a walk, remember to breathe, that kind of thing.
More often than not I find when I do that kind of mental exercise the lost item mysteriously turns up again.
Get help from others
If it’s a one-off problem, enlist help. More eyes looking for whatever it is that you’ve misplaced will be useful.
Even if it’s not the first time that you’ve lost something, getting other people to help find it for you can be worthwhile. If there are children helping then you can turn it into a treasure hunt style game to help find lost things for you.
Widescale Police hunts do this – they get help from locals to scour an area. Not the most pleasant task but most people are sociable and offer to help.
It’s highly unlikely your lost item will be on that scale so you’ll probably only need one or two extra pairs of eyes to help you find whatever it is you’ve currently mislaid.
Of course, it helps if you can remember a few details about whatever it is you’ve lost.
The more clues you can give your helpers, the better.
If all they’re looking for is some leather, that won’t help much. It could be a wallet, a pair of shoes, a jacket, a belt or any one of hundreds of other items.
The item you’ve lost is probably familiar to you but sometimes it takes more memory than we’d prefer to expend to remember details about familiar items. It’s a bit like walking down a road every day but not knowing the name of the road (been there, done that, since I was young and given up on being red-faced about not knowing).
Again, relaxing and taking a few deep breaths will get you back in control of your mind and let those small but important details come forward so your helpers really can help.
If you have a tendency to run around like a headless chicken when you’ve lost something, take a deep breath and a mental step back.
Give yourself (literally) some breathing space.
When you’ve calmed yourself down slightly, you’ll be in a better place mentally to help find lost things and recover them sooner rather than later.
If it’s not urgent, put the idea on the back burner in your mind. Just give yourself time to find the item and there’s a good chance that it will turn up on its own accord. Maybe not in the location you were expecting it (but, then, it wouldn’t have been lost if that were the case) but lost things sometimes seem to have a mind of their own.
Set the intention that you’re going to find it – tell yourself (preferably out loud) that you’ll come across the lost item soon and that it will be extremely obvious when you do. Almost as though it’s been taunting you all this time.
When you’re searching for the lost item, do your search in order. That way there’s a lot less chance of inadvertently skipping over the very place it is.
If you’ve ever found a lost item in what you thought was the first place you’d looked, you’ll know all about that problem.
So take the time to look – and if necessary retrace steps – in as methodical a way as possible.
Take yourself back in time – mentally. Hypnosis can be a great way to do this. It helps clarify your memories and you’ll be really surprised at the amount of detail you can remember when you get the kind of help that hypnosis gives you.