Hypnosis admin on 20 Aug 2010 06:36 pm
How To Stop Apologizing
If you’re always apologizing and saying “sorry”, even if it’s not your fault, then it’s time to stop apologizing. But how can you do it?
It’s probably a habit. You maybe even start your sentences with an apology and everyone knows that you’re probably going to say it’s your fault.
So just how can you stop apologizing?
Stop apologizing and think before you speak
Which is easier said than done.
The trick is to think about what you’re going to say in general. There isn’t time to pause between every word so it’s the general direction your conversation goes in that’s important.
Make a mental note of the apologetic phrases you use most often. Chances are there’ll be a handful of these that you use most often. Then use the next option to change that.
Replace your excuses
Once you’ve got your list of common excuse phrases, take some time out to work on some replacement wordings. So if you’re always starting your sentences with “I’m sorry…” take a bit of time to choose a different filler phrase. Then whenever you catch yourself in time, replace “I’m sorry” with your new phrase.
Don’t beat yourself up
You’re probably on autopilot with your mouth opening before your brain has a chance to kick in. Which means that there will be times when your apology slips out before you even notice. This will happen so don’t start mentally beating yourself up when it does. Just accept that it’s happened – you can’t press the rewind button in real life – and let the angriness at yourself melt away.
Get more positive
To a large extent, apologizing is an outward sign of being a negative person. Maybe not totally negative – there’s a good chance you don’t go around moaning all the time – but there’s certainly a good chance you’ve got a negative outlook lurking somewhere. Work on turning that outlook round – there are lots of self help books on Amazon and other places that you can get hold of them inexpensively or there are courses online that will help you turn a negative attitude around.
Once you begin to crack the idea of having a more positive outlook, you’ll find yourself naturally starting to apologize less. Once that starts to happen, you will find that it turns into a virtuous circle where you apologize less and that automatically helps you reduce your apologies even further.
Use hypnosis
You can get hold of an inexpensive hypnosis track to help change your mind around and start you on the road to stopping apologizing all the time. This works on your mind from the inside out and is an excellent way of reinforcing the other techniques we’ve discussed.