Stage fright doesn’t just happen with actors or when you’re due to speak in front of a group. It’s very common in other areas of life as well and one of those is stage fright when peeing.
That’s one of the reasons there are usually modesty panels between urinals – they’re not just there to stop you getting accused of looking the wrong way, they’re there to help you take your mind off the fact that other people are close by when you’re peeing in a public rest room.
There’s even a whole etiquette here depending on how many urinals are being used – generally it’s a case of if at all possible, leave at least one empty urinal between you and the next guy. But there are times when that’s not just possible.
So you can contort yourself and try to hold back until a cubicle is free – that works for some people but others still don’t like the idea that their peeing can still be overheard or the door might somehow get forced in (the stuff of nightmares) or some other totally improbable but still mega worrying possibility.
Or you can take matters in hand (pun intended) and sort your mind out so that you no longer get stage fright about peeing in public facilities.
Have some practice runs
There are usually some quiet public rest rooms – either because the location is quiet or at certain times of day. Whilst normally it’s not practical to wait until a quiet time of day before you pee, if you’re having a rehearsal that’s not quite the same thing.
If you’ve got an understanding friend, take them along with you to stand guard near the entrance. They won’t stop other people from entering the rest room (that would be odd) but they can give you a few vital seconds warning of someone else approaching.
Build up your confidence slowly. If you can use the urinal in the relatively early hours of the morning or late-ish at night when the risk of being disturbed is low, that can help to build up your confidence and reduce your stage fright when you need to pee and the rest rooms are busier.
Slowly build up to using the urinals at busier times.
This process is a bit like having a vaccination: you get a small dose of the problem and your body adapts to deal with it.
As with taking your mind off things, if the taps aren’t the water saving push button style then it may also help to turn one of them on so that there’s the sound of running water – that usually helps our mind to focus on what needs to happen.
Take your mind off things
Deep breaths are a good way to start – they give your body’s natural relaxation tendencies time to kick in. So before you start to fret about the likelihood of peeing in a public rest room, deliberately take some long, deep, breaths in. Breathe in slowly, maybe hold your lungs full of air for a second or two if it’s comfortable to do so, then breathe out slowly. Imagine that your fears and shy bladder worries are hitching a ride on the out-going breath and harmlessly escaping from your body.
If there’s someone near you in the stalls, there’s a good chance they’re feeling the exact same way.
But whether that’s the case or not, think of running water. Those seemingly endless waterfalls are a good thing to bring to mind as they remind you what you need to do, they’re beautiful to look at and if you can bring up the sounds of the water splashing down over the water fall as well, nature will take over and you’ll be peeing.
If the faucets (taps) are old fashioned and allow you to leave them running, do that as well. The newer push button or sensor operated taps don’t last as long so may not be an option. But a patient friend could always help.
If you’re feeling especially public spirited, pretend to yourself that the rest room is on fire and that it’s your job to put it out. Our imaginations are weird things and often just a simple distraction like that can let you chill out enough to empty your bladder without making you super-scared.
And once you’ve done the deed, allow a warm glow of satisfaction to spread throughout your body. Give it a colour (not that one!) and let the colour move through your body from top to bottom, intensifying as it goes.
Hypnotise your peeing fear away
Hypnosis is a fantastic way to get rid of those odd things in your life that are holding you back and the fear of peeing in public is no exception.
It works and it works well.
And the MP3 download is discreet – no-one other than you and the site’s computer will know you’ve bought a track to get rid of your shy bladder. (I’m assuming you’re not going to put the track on speakers or brag about it to everyone who’ll listen on Facebook)
It might take just one listen-through of the track or it could be a slow build-up over a few listens spread across a few days.
Either way, it’s better than standing outside a public urinal, frozen like a deer in headlights or crossing your legs while you try to walk home.
Plus it’s super-cheap to get a hypnosis track and you can start working on sorting out your stage fright about peeing almost instantly.